After What They Did To Monica, You Still Think Victims Should Feel Free to Disclose?
And Monica Was Not the Only Victim in this Case of Workplace Sexual Harassment
What if what had happened to Monica Lewinsky had happened to Chelsea Clinton? The story, I am sure, would have developed entirely differently. Instead, leading feminists of the day joined the powers that be (including last election’s presidential hopeful) in vilifying a young intern who was sexually harassed by a sitting president. And after they did that to her, people can still wonder why victims of sexual offenses, big and small, just keep quiet?
I admit that I am obsessed with the Monica Lewinsky case. As a retired sex trauma therapist, I find it hard to get past the poor treatment Monica received as a victim of workplace sexual harassment and I would love almost nothing more than for the entire nation to ask her forgiveness, beginning with Hillary. To me, THAT would be historical.
The Monica Lewinsky scandal is arguably the most renowned unadjudicated instance of sexual harassment in the workplace. Indeed, to this day, the possible illegality and not just immorality of former President Clinton’s actions re Lewinsky is a nonexistent aspect of the public discourse. In this piece I want to show you how Lewinsky was a victim of sexual harassment in the workplace and how she was not the only victim in this case.
While in some countries, such as Israel and France, workplace sexual harassment is a criminal offence, in the USA it is included in the Civil Rights Act of 1964 as a human rights issue. Perhaps it is time for the USA to reconsider and add it to the criminal statutes. In any case, by the time the Lewinsky scandal broke in 1998, American courts had already handled numerous other complaints in this category. Yet, instead of demanding accountability on the part of the most powerful citizen of the USA and empathizing with Lewinsky, she was shafted upon disclosure of the affair and turned into a globally recognized “slut” and “sexual predator”.
Humiliated and shamed, her life was turned upside down. As a result of the notoriety, nobody would hire her for a regular job. From her own descriptions of what transpired, she may even have been invited for job interviews by ghoulishly curious potential employers who just wanted to meet her in person, never having intended on hiring her in fact. Unable to find a regular job, then, she allowed herself to be interviewed for television, a book and magazine articles, and it seems the money was still insufficient to cover her legal costs. Sadly, she was scorned for “cashing in” on her “fame”. Prematurely let go from a profitable advertising campaign because she was “that woman”, she tried unsuccessfully to develop a handbag design and manufacturing firm. Even before facing these humiliations, she may have been at risk of suicide, not because of the end of the relationship with Clinton, but because of the media circus and what it did to her image and reputation. Those were the days of the emerging Internet and she was splattered all over it.
Twice Victimized
While Lewinsky herself is talking today about her public shaming, and others are collaborating with her in talking only about this, I think we should look at what preceded the shaming — workplace sexual harassment — because without the harassment there would have been no pretext for the shaming. Perhaps it is the shaming that has made it more difficult for her to overcome the consequences of the hugely inappropriate behaviour of then 40 year-old President Clinton, who engaged in sexual activity with the 22 year-old White House employee (she was an unpaid intern for the first month of the so-called “affair” and afterward was an employee).
I find it reprehensible that well-known feminists chose to mock her rather than to support her. Was it because of their gratitude toward Clinton for certain female-friendly legislation and appointments that they ignored the power dynamics of the Clinton-Lewinsky “relationship” and blamed Monica? Barbara Ledeen, executive director for policy at the Independent Women’s Forum, was quoted by Marjorie Williams in her 2007 Vanity Fair article as saying:
“The C.E.O. of a corporation wouldn’t have had time to pack up his briefcase before he was fired for [something like] this…”
However, nobody else ever seems to have picked up on this aspect of the scandal and it slipped totally out of public consciousness. Thus Monica was left to cope with the double-whammy of having been a victim of workplace sexual harassment and then a victim of the social ostracism that resulted from its disclosure.
Monica Lewinsky Tries To Maintain Control Over What Happened
After having laid low for over a decade, Lewinsky has recently resurfaced with renewed purpose: helping prevent others from falling prey to online bullying. This is certainly a worthy cause and hopefully one that people will allow her to conduct with some dignity. As part of her reappearance, she set out to clarify the narrative of events from her own perspective. In a May 2014 article in Vanity Fair, Lewinsky wrote:
Sure, my boss took advantage of me, but I will always remain firm on this point: it was a consensual relationship. Any ‘abuse’ came in the aftermath, when I was made a scapegoat in order to protect his powerful position.
Like many survivors, she tries to maintain a sense of control over what happened and claiming the relationship was consensual (between equals) is one way of trying to do that. Anyone who works with sex trauma survivors is well aware of this phenomenon. And anyone who gives serious consideration to this situation knows that Clinton had the responsibility to nip the infatuation in the bud and not exploit it.
What Is Workplace Sexual Harassment?
The abusive aftermath of situations of workplace sexual harassment is one of the phenomena the law against harassment seeks to prevent.
The law recognizes two kinds of workplace sexual harassment: quid pro quo and creating a hostile environment. In the first instance, an employee is pressured into accepting sexual advances in order to earn a promotion or raise, or threatened with loss of job status or even the job itself if the sex/relationship is rejected. The second form, hostile environment, is the one that pertains in this case:
Although the law doesn’t prohibit simple teasing, offhand comments, or isolated incidents that are not very serious, harassment is illegal when it is so frequent or severe that it creates a hostile or offensive work environment or when it results in an adverse employment decision (such as the victim being fired or demoted). [Emphasis mine.]
It is clear that the “liaison” resulted in an offensive work environment as Lewinsky says during her ABC News interview.
Overnight I went from being a completely private figure to being a publicly humiliated one.
Even before the public outing of their relationship, other staff at the White House noticed that something untoward was going on. Obviously unable to call their boss to order, they instead maneuvered to keep Lewinsky far from him; they fired her from her job at the White House and transferred her to a new position in the Pentagon. Later, when the full story emerged, she lost even that job and, as described above, was unable to find alternative employment. That, to me, seems like a series of adverse employment consequences. Therefore, there should be no doubt in anyone’s mind that this was a case of workplace sexual harassment.
Responsibility for Sexual Harassment
We cannot with any certainty say that the sexual advances were unwelcome, something the law at that time required in order to regard the behaviour as illegal harassment. Monica claims that she fell in love and was a willing partner, perhaps even the initiator; in a speech at Forbes Under 30 Summit, she said:
“Straight out of college, a 22 year-old intern in the White House and, more than averagely romantic, I fell in love with my boss, in a 22-year-old sort of way. It happens.”
Yes, it certainly does happen. And it is the responsibility of the person with the power to refrain from acting upon that.
Clinton was well aware of the power imbalance between him and his young starry eyed intern-soon-to-be-paid-employee. Not only was he her boss, he was also President of the United States, and in both capacities he should have understood the heavy obligation to behave responsibly.
There is no way that one can give them equal responsibility for this “affair” that was not an affair. He should have drawn the line, made the boundaries clear, and if he was after an extramarital affair he should have looked for one outside of his work environment. Not possible when you are the president of the United States? Tough luck! Then control your urges until you are no longer president of the United States! POTUS does not have the luxury of doing otherwise.
Did Clinton ever care about the havoc he caused in this young woman’s life? Did Hillary care either then or now about the havoc her husband caused this young woman, just starting out in what could have been a fantastic career?
Another Victim of Clinton’s Harassment of Monica, and Untold Others
Interestingly, the U.S. Equal Opportunity Commission clearly states on its website that:
The victim does not have to be the person harassed but could be anyone affected by the offensive conduct.
So one could perhaps argue that Betty Curry (the President’s secretary) could have sued Clinton for workplace sexual harassment, as I cannot imagine that Curry felt good about the role she was manipulated into playing after Lewinsky had been transferred to the Pentagon.
Betty Curry arranged the secret meetings between Clinton and Lewinsky, made the phone connections between them herself so that the calls would not be logged and delivered gifts from her to him. More amazingly, Curry sometimes even had to come to work on weekends solely to let Lewinsky into the president’s office. That sounds like abuse of power to me and I hope you are as disgusted to learn about this as I was.
In addition, and perhaps no less importantly, we also need to ask ourselves whether or not any other White House interns stood a chance of being hired during the time there was this “special relationship” between Lewinsky and the President.
Clinton — No Excuses For His Behavior
In the end, under growing pressure due to an impending harassment suit lodged against him by Paula Jones, Clinton ended his relationship with Lewinsky. Here is how the Starr Report says she described it:
The situation, he [Clinton] stressed, was not Ms. Lewinsky’s fault. Ms. Lewinsky, weeping, tried to persuade the President not to end the sexual relationship, but he was unyielding, then and subsequently.
If he had the strength to end the relationship at that time, then he certainly had the strength to end it before it even began. Being older, more experienced, aware of the law, and responsible for the well-being of an entire nation, he should have possessed enough foresight to comprehend the potentially explosive nature of their relationship, for him, for his young employee, for his family, for White House staff and for the status of the presidency.
While this naïve, love-besotted and attractive young woman may have pursued him, perhaps even relentlessly, Clinton had the choice to either give in to his baser instincts or to rise above the situation and behave like a (law abiding) mensch. Instead of telling her that, while he found her attractive, it was inappropriate that they get involved, he chose to act like a hormone-overwhelmed teenager who took what was offered (and if we believe Paula Jones and Kathleen Willey, among others, he sometimes took what was not offered as well).
In looking back, Lewinsky writes in her Vanity Fair article:
I, myself, deeply regret what happened between me and President Clinton. . . . In my early 20s, I was too young to understand the real-life consequences, and too young to see that I would be sacrificed for political expediency. I look back now, shake my head in disbelief, and wonder: what was I — what were we — thinking?
I am wondering something different — what would Clinton, the father, think if what had been done to Monica Lewinsky had happened to his own daughter, Chelsea? Would he then have been able to recognize the responsible and guilty party as being the older man, the boss, who should have known better?
No Justice For Monica Lewinsky
Because of the Statute of Limitations, there is no longer any chance for legal justice for Lewinsky should she ever decide she wants it. She will never get her day in court. I have no doubt insurmountable political forces kept her from filing charges when she could have. Such forces did a good job ensuring that even today any discussion of what happened does not include the issue of workplace sexual harassment, the horrid abuse of, in this case, male power over a female employee for some random moments of sexual gratification, perpetuated after the fact by the same abuse of male power that twists things around until just about the whole world, including her, says it’s her own fault.
It is apparently still not clear to Monica that at 22, while she was party to something regrettable, her naivety was exploited and at this point we will never know if she was or was not criminally manipulated into believing it was what she wanted.
My heart goes out to the young woman who had had a promising career ahead of her swept away, not only by a horny president who was known to have had a series of sex assault complaints lodged against him, but also by the political and social machinery that protected the perpetrator and unleashed upon his victim/s a tsunami of venom and hatred.
Hillary’s Part in the Butchering of Monica’s Name
Hillary has repeatedly proclaimed that she is fighting for women’s rights and that her election to the presidency, as a woman, would have been historical. However, she took part in blackening Monica’s name and even allowed her daughter to take part in the circus protecting Bill. In her Vanity Fair article, Marjorie Williams wrote:
Finally, feminists have a special responsibility to loathe the lies, implicit and explicit, with which Clinton has consistently tried to cover his tracks: feminism, at its core, is about helping women to respect what is true over what is convenient. It’s bad enough that Clinton has hidden behind an endless chain of women to protect him from the consequences of his actions: from Betsey Wright, the longtime aide who contained “bimbo eruptions” for him in 1992, to Hillary and Chelsea — whistled home from Stanford, while classes were in session, to take part in a tender father-daughter photo op nine days after the scandal broke — to Betty Currie, the loyal secretary who will leave the Clinton White House with a mountain of legal bills. [emphasis mine]
Williams claimed that Hillary’s feminist friends went along with the demonization of Monica, perhaps following Hillary’s lead. As CNN reported, Hillary had referred to her as a ‘narcissistic loony toon’.
Equally troubling is the revelation in the CNN report of the fact that Hillary blamed herself for sending her husband into another woman’s arms, so to speak. Bill Clinton was apparently under particular stress at the time, but wives accepting blame for their husbands’ actions is not the message a proponent of women’s rights and (men’s acceptance of responsibility for their own decisions) should be projecting. That is material for couples therapy, but this was not a simple case of adultery — it was workplace sexual harassment! And it was not a singular occurrence — it was part of a pattern of alleged abuses of his power.
Hillary’s Potential Part (and Ours) in Vindicating Monica
Let us finally direct our scorn in the right direction. And let us demand that Hillary (and all of us) clear Monica’s name. This does not mean that Hillary has to leave Bill but just tell the truth based on contemporary understanding of workplace sexual harassment by saying:
- that it was a case of workplace sexual harassment;
- that it should have been handled better at the time;
- that there is no excuse for sexual harassment in the White House (or any other place of work); and
- that she is sorry for her part in the narration that turned the victim into a vixen.
THAT is what a spokesperson of women’s rights should be saying. This is what we all should be saying. And THAT would be historical!
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